Liz Zhou
Holistic Trauma Therapist, Coach, Speaker
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I help highly sensitive, neurodivergent adults & couples heal their nervous systems & connect with their authentic selves.
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Love is the Answer | A Story of Friendship, Life, & Mortality
May we show up for each other until the very end, not just when it’s comfortable & convenient, but through the uncomfortable & scary parts of life as well (when we need each other most).
Decentering the Medical Model: There’s Nothing Wrong with You
In this poignant conversation, Liz Zhou & Halle Thomas explore why the medical model (which assumes that health = the “absence of illness”) is not the only paradigm. We discuss ways to make therapy safer for queer, BIPOC, & neurodivergent folks; and how to weave ancestral & cultural practices into the healing process.
Let’s Talk Self-Care: Brain Dumps, Inner Child, & Nature
We’ve all heard how important self-care is — but actually building a self-care plan that works for your brain is a whole other story. If the typical advice, like “take a bubble bath!” or “have you tried meditating?”, simply doesn’t work for you: let’s explore options that feel more accessible & authentic to you.
You’re Not Broken: An Affirming, Ancestral View of Neurodiversity
Neurodivergence, like autism & ADHD, is often stigmatized in Western mental health. They’re seen as pathologies in need of a “cure.” But what if we viewed neurodiversity through a curious & affirming lens, acknowledging both the challenges AND gifts?
How Do You Want to Be Remembered? | Reflections on Life, Death, & End-of-Life Planning
What does a good life mean to you? What about a good death? To plan, lovingly, for the end of our lives — while knowing that anything could happen & nothing is guaranteed – requires us to reckon with how we are living now.
You’re Not Lazy: Your Nervous System Needs Rest
Endless productivity is not realistic, yet many of us carry the burden of feeling “lazy,” like we’re not doing enough. This blog post explores why rest is a need, not a reward; how capitalism & culture impact our relationship to work; and what it means to move at the speed of your nervous system — not at the speed of capitalism.
Depth vs. Breadth of Attention: How Many Tabs Do You Have Open?
When attention has breadth, it flows in different directions, responding to whatever is most interesting / urgent in the moment. When attention has depth, it burrows deeply into a single point of focus for a sustained period of time.
Unpacking Internalized Oppression: You’re Not Crazy, You’re Human
If you have an inner voice that tells you, “I’m unworthy,” “I don’t matter,” or “I’m crazy/too sensitive”... let’s explore why these beliefs may come from the systems of oppression around us — and how we can relate to ourselves in a more compassionate way.
To Mask or Unmask: Your Nervous System, Your Needs
When does it feel safe to be you? If you’ve heard the advice “just be yourself” and felt frustrated by how generic it was, I want to share a more nuanced framework that acknowledges personal identities & lived experiences: masking vs. unmasking.
Building Community: How We Disrupt Systems of Oppression
Community is essential for nervous system health, especially in times of injustice and collective transition. Let’s explore how to build community in ways that align with our needs, capacity, & available resources.
What is Neurodiversity-Affirming Care? | Differences are Not Deficits
The care you receive – whether in therapy, coaching, or other healing spaces – shouldn’t require you to mask. It should allow space for your authentic self, autonomy, and choice in every step of the process.
What Does it Mean to be Neurodivergent? | Identity, Neurotype, Diagnosis, & Disability
Let’s unpack why “normal” is a social construct; why we shouldn't pathologize people for being different; and why we all fall somewhere along the spectrum of neurodivergence to neurotypicality.
Nervous System Regulation: Why Self-Care & Collective Care Matter
Dysregulation isn’t a bad thing — it’s just information. In this blog post, I explain what the nervous system is, what nervous system regulation means, and why the goal isn’t to be 100% regulated all the time, but rather to have a FLEXIBLE nervous system.
An Honest Response to “How are You?”: Using IFS “Parts” Language to Acknowledge Complexity
We all have “parts,” working inside the nervous system, helping us to navigate life in whatever way makes sense. Parts of you might numb out in response to overwhelming events. Other parts might hold grief, rage, or fear. Every part has something important to share.
Navigating Neurodivergence in a Complex World: Joy, Grief, Care, Hope
Being a human in this world, in these times, is to hold grief in one hand & joy in the other. How do we acknowledge suffering, without losing ourselves in it?
Nervous System Tips for Neurodivergent Folks in Burnout & Meltdown Mode
As neurodivergent (autistic, ADHD, highly sensitive) people, we face an uphill battle when it comes to regulating our nervous systems: the stressors of everyday life, the weight of collective traumas, and a world that wasn’t built for our wiring.
For Neurodiverse Couples: 8 Tips for Healthy Conversations about Money
What if financial conversations could feel compassionate, curious, and connecting? (Instead of devolving into arguments and frying your nervous systems.) Here’s a neurodivergent-friendly guide to talking to your partner about money – in a way that works with your brains and brings you closer together.
Reflections on Intergenerational Wisdom & Nervous System Healing
Our bodies hold subconscious & intergenerational information. Your ancestors play a role in the story of your nervous system.
Brainspotting Therapy = Staring Off into Space?
Holistic therapist, Liz Zhou, explains Brainspotting therapy in simple terms. Learn how to heal from painful experiences — without having to talk the whole time.
Giving & Receiving Care: The 5 Love Languages of Building Community
This is your (neurodivergent-friendly) guide to building community in a world that so desperately needs it. Let’s explore the 5 love languages of collective care — quality time, gifts, words of affirmation, collective presence, and acts of service.